Unlike men who can get away with rolling out of bed, throwing on some semi-clean clothes and doing a bit of minor grooming, women spend a ton of time and money on their appearance. Sure, they dress and groom in order to feel good about themselves, but the idea of being attractive to men is never far from their minds either. Unfortunately, a lady's efforts are too often overlooked by male admirers who may appreciate the look as a whole, but don't notice the little things that go into it.
A study released in the fall of 2010 by Northumbria University in Britain reinforces the idea that men are inattentive to these details by showing that men couldn’t see a difference in the way a woman walks when wearing heels or flats. Esquire seems to think North American men are more observant, retweeting The Huffington Post’s link to the article Men Don’t Notice When Women Wear High Heels, Study Says, adding, “Yes we do.”
If you want to really impress her, check out nottiehottie’s list of the Top 10: Things She Wants You To Notice, including things you should pay attention to about her appearance, behavior and efforts. Not all of them require a direct comment, but some kind of reaction is warranted to let her know you appreciate all the elements that make her a fabulous girlfriend.
No.10 - Her shoes
A woman’s posture, gait and presence are noticeably (to everyone but the men who participated in the study, apparently) changed when she is wearing high heels. They make her legs look longer, highlight her behind and re-angle her torso. It also helps that the world has a collective shoe fetish, causing men and women to view the high heel as sexy and alluring. Wearing high heels is one thing women definitely do for the benefit of men, since they are usually not the most comfortable choice in footwear. A woman’s feet and wallet both suffer for the cause of great shoes.
No.9 - That she's funny
Most people put “a good sense of humor” pretty high on the list of qualities they would like in a significant other. So, when she tells a particularly amusing joke or keeps your friends laughing all night, make sure to acknowledge it. This could be as easy as saying, “My friends thought you were a lot of fun,” or just laughing genuinely when she shows off her comedic timing.
No.8 - That she smells different
The next thing she wants you to notice is her scent. Scent is a very important aspect of attraction and there’s a good chance that the way she smells was part of what drew you to her in the first place. Women usually pay close attention to the way they smell, finding the perfect balance of perfume, lotion and other scented products. When she changes her signature scent in a significant way, she wants you to notice. Close your eyes, lean in and say, “You smell great. Are you wearing something different?”
No.7 - That she cleaned up
This is one of those cases where a direct, enthusiastic comment is encouraged, because it’s something she wants you to notice. If she has worked all day straightening up the living space you share, make a point of saying, “Wow, it’s spotless in here!” If it is your own apartment that she doesn’t yet share with you that got the cleaning, offering a foot rub would be extremely appropriate.
No.6 - That she's been working out
Whether her goal is to lose weight, get toned, build muscle, or just to look and feel healthier, you should support her commitment to working out and going to the gym. And when you start seeing the results of her fitness regimen in her body, you should definitely compliment her on it. Telling her that her body looks great could be an excellent aphrodisiac for her, which is a bonus for you.
No.5 - That she got waxed
Waxing hurts. No matter how nonchalant she tries to be about it, it is a tremendously unpleasant experience from beginning to end. A woman wouldn’t go through the trouble and pain of getting her body hair waxed for herself -- that’s why this makes it on our list of the top 10 things she wants you to notice. It is, in fact, an act women only do to please men. Reward her by touching her smooth, soft skin often and providing plenty of oral sex.
No.4 - That she got dolled up
When a woman gets dressed up, it can be quite a production. It could take hours by the time she is satisfied with her hair, makeup, outfit, shoes, and bag. So, when she finally appears in front of you, looking radiant, some flattering words are definitely in order.
No.3 - That she's prepared an occasion
It’s important to notice when your girlfriend makes an effort to create a special atmosphere for the two of you, such as making an elaborate dinner or placing candles around the bedroom. The best way to show your awareness of her efforts is to make your own in return; next time it’s your turn to set something up to create an occasion.
No.2 - That she has a new hairstyle
Women do a remarkable number of things to perfect and maintain their hair -- cutting, styling, dyeing, curling, straightening, teasing, backcombing, relaxing, etc. -- and they do a lot of it in order to appear attractive to men. Noticing any major change in her hair, whether it’s the style, cut or color, is essential to remaining in her good books. A simple, “Your hair looks great!” will suffice it.
No.1 - That she's wearing new lingerie
Telling men to notice a woman’s lingerie may seem like a no-brainer, but there is a difference between vaguely registering that she is wearing lingerie before swiftly removing it and taking some time to appreciate the look and feel of the skimpy number she has donned just for you.
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