Men are about as different as women as to their erogenous zones and how they like to be touched. It takes all kinds of touching experiments over the weeks and months of a relationship to find the spots a particular man enjoys best. Just don’t expect these all to work on the next guy.
Very light touching/stroking on the insides of the thighs, buttocks, scrotum, are good. You can suck his nipples, or stroke them lightly. Armpits are very sensitive, as are the hollows inside the elbows. Even the inside of the wrists can yield pleasure.
However, it is very important to note that Men only have one small (some smaller than others) erogenous zone. Touching a man’s cheek, thighs or even scrotum does not cause sexual stimulation. It makes him THINK about sex, and that is what causes the arousal. Hence no matter what the experts say, Men loves it when you touch him below the belt – before, during and after Sex.
In specifics, every man likes to be pleasured differently. Some enjoy a nice tight grip, while others prefer a light, barely there touch. As in all sex and relationship topics, open communication is the best way to know what your man likes – so just ask. Another option to figuring out how your partner likes to be touched is to watch them. Many guys find it quite the turn-on to have you watch them pleasure themselves.
No matter how he prefers it, there are some general guidelines that should be followed:
Take off your jewellery. Sure your ring is nice and smooth, but across his hardened shaft it can become quite painful.
Lubrication is an integral part of a good hand job. If you don’t have any lubricant, use saliva on your hand or on his shaft, combined with sensual licks and kisses to keep the sensations smooth for your man. There are loads of warming lubricants available that also can provide a pleasurable sensation for men.
Be prepared to go all the way. Unless you are using a hand job as foreplay, be prepared to take him to orgasm. Leaving him hanging is not a way to get him to allow you anywhere near him again! He doesn’t want to be teased and tormented, he wants to reach climax.
As nice smooth pace is all you need for the basic handjob to pleasure the penis. As he gets closer to climaxing, most men prefer a tighter grip and a faster pace to take them over the edge.
Pleasuring a man with a hand job doesn’t have to be a long thought out process, in fact the more you over think it the worse it tends to be. With open communication with our partners, we can find out quickly and without all the trial and error what works for them. They all prefer things a little differently and just like us, the best way to know is to ask or watch him in action.
Places He Wants to Be Touched
It's one of the most visible symbols of your guy’s manhood, yet it rarely gets attention. "When you stroke a man's jaw, you're subconsciously reinforcing to him that he's masculine, which is an ego boost," says Barbara Keesling, PhD, author of Men In Bed. And that chin stubble doesn't just look sexy — it's the gateway to loads of pleasure receptors that reside where his facial hair meets skin.
TOUCH IT: Gently trace the tips of your fingers across his jaw, starting at his earlobe and working your way down. Lightly stroking this area stimulates sensitive nerves in his face, says Ian Kerner, PhD, author of Passionista: The Empowered Woman's Guide To Pleasuring A Man. Throw in a subtle dominatrix vibe by cupping your hands around his chin and staring into his eyes for a few seconds, before leaning in for a steamy kiss.
There are two spots here that are primed for pleasure. Just like his jawline, the top of your guy's forearm is extra sensitive because of the nerve-packed hair follicles, Kerner says. And the smooth underside of his arm is jammed with tense muscles just begging for a release.
TOUCH IT: Face your man and lightly place your hands around each forearm with your thumbs on top, using your fingers to lightly rub up and down the top and bottom of his arms (massage the meatiest parts but avoid the bone), recommends sex coach Amy Levine, founder of Sexedsolutions.com. Keep rubbing until you see him visibly relax…then rub some more. The combo of the stress relief and drawn-out physical contact will leave him craving a deeper connection.
His Lower Back
We mean really low — like, right above his crack. "This area is typically neglected because men are so sensitive about their butt, but it's really responsive to a firm, sexy massage," Kerner explains. Working the muscles there will feel slightly taboo to him (which is why it's so hot), and enables you to get rid of a tension-induced stiffness so he can move his hips more freely later on.
TOUCH IT: Put his mind at ease by reassuring him that you're just going to massage his muscles, not do anything crazy, Keesling recommends. Then straddle his legs while he's lying on his stomach and treat him to a rubdown, starting at the bottom of his lower back and heading south to the top of his tailbone. Place the heels of your hands on either side of his spine, and stroke firmly outward toward his sides. Move your hands down an inch and repeat until you're halfway down his butt, then move slowly back up.
His Inner Thigh
Few women actually explore a man's inner thighs, which means he may be a bit, uh, shocked, but still really turned on when you take a maiden voyage down there. Plus, when you get your guy's blood pumping in this area, you're automatically upping his arousal, giving him an even harder-than-usual erection.
TOUCH IT: Gently grab his legs and spread them to expose his inner thighs. When you make contact, "always move towards his penis to guide the blood flow in that direction," Keesling says. Start massaging his muscles with light finger strokes, upgrading to a firmer touch before licking and kissing each side with increasing frequency as you near his package.
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