Kissing someone you don't really like:
Be polite. Smile. Turn your face and offer them your cheek. Hold stead fast to this gesture and if they move to get your lips, well, turn the other cheek. You are never under any obligation to let somebody kiss you on the lips, but a polite social peck on the cheek never hurt anyone. Rather than look like a scrooge when a person you don't ever want to lock lips with traps you under the mistletoe, offer them your cheek and follow up with a simple peck on theirs. No arms around each other, no hand holding, no extra touching whatsoever, only a peck and a smile. Then say something nice, smile and walk away (quickly). They'll get the message that you aren't interested while still maintaining their dignity (a nice holiday gesture, don't you think?).
Super Savvy Tip:
As you leave turn on the charm and say, "Can I borrow that mistletoe?". Then, when this person is out of sight, use the mistletoe on the person you really want to be kissing.
Kissing someone you like as a friend:
This one depends on how good a friend we are talking about. Is it just another member of your group? A quick peck on the cheek or lips will do fine. Is it a good bud? You might want to linger for an instant longer. All kisses to friends should be closed mouth kisses - you don't want anybody getting the wrong idea. No need to put your arms around each other, but if you are good friends there is also no harm in this. For a funny little variation on the friendly kiss, grab a buddy by the head and shower them with little kisses all over the face, like you would a baby. Sweet!
Super Savvy Tip:
After the kiss is over, throw in a quick hug and add, "I am so glad you're my friend!", just so there is no room for confusion or gossip.
Kissing someone you might like (when you aren't quite sure):
This is an excellent chance to test the chemistry between you. The kiss you give in this situation should fall somewhere between what you'd give to a bud and what you would give to a full fledged crush. Think short and sweet with a hint of passion. Also, make sure that there is some other body contact. Putting your arms around each other is nice, but if it seems to be too much, holding hands works too. Whatever you do, do not venture in to the realm of french kissing, but opening your mouth ever so slightly adds an element of intimacy. This kiss should last more than a second but less than 15 seconds. Too long and you run the risk of sending an undeniable "I am in to you!" message. Too short and you may give the person an unintended brush off.
Super Savvy Tip:
If the kiss made you see stars, linger a while by holding hands or staying arm in arm, and smile. If the kiss made you feel silly, smile and say, "Thanks!", then head straight for your nearest friend.
Kissing someone you have a crush on (when it is clear they are interested too):
This may very well be the most exciting type of kiss there is. It is so full of promise and good natured lusty feelings. You don't know this person well enough to love them yet, but you sure feel something so strong toward them that it makes you breathless. Fight that feeling. To make this kiss memorable you are going to have to breath. It is probably still too early to try french kissing, but making it a little wet won't hurt. Start with a gentle closed mouth peck and move on to something a little more inviting - open mouth but no tongue. Try to keep your lips soft, not too puckered, and make sure that your arms are around your partner. A couple of kisses in a row is a nice idea. Try not to let this kiss linger too long or you may find yourself making out. Making out with a crush too quickly has spelled doom to many could-have-been romances. Make sure the kiss has a definite end and that you both stay on the same planet as the rest of the party-goers.
Super Savvy Tip:
When the kiss is over, invite your crush to hang out with you a bit more. If there is dancing, suggest a turn on the floor. Or hold hands and join a group of people talking. Keep holding hands so people can see that, right now, you are "together".
Kissing someone you have just started dating:
If this isn't your first date, chances are you have kissed before (if not, see the tips for kissing a crush), so a turn under the mistletoe shouldn't be that frightening. But that doesn't mean it isn't special. A mistletoe kiss with a new steady can be something you will never forget. For this reason, it should be a little different than your other kisses. Holding each other close is a definite must. Start kissing the same as you have in the past. Play with each others hair or run your fingers up and down one another's back. If you have never french kissed before, now may be a good first time. If you aren't ready to french kiss yet, try what we Canadians call a "Quebec kiss". This type of kiss is a shorter, dryer version of the french kiss with only a little bit of tongue playing. If you aren't ready for that either, try spicing up the kiss with a little bit of fun, playfully tickle your partner to signal that it is over or end with a gentle kiss on the nose or forehead.
Super Savvy Tip:
Stay in each other's arms even after the kiss is over and talk. Talk about the kiss and how nice it was, talk about the party and how fun it is, and then lean in for another quick smooch.
Kissing someone you have a relationship with:
It never gets boring kissing your steady but kissing under the mistletoe is always a little bit special. Since you are probably well acquainted with one another's kissing techniques, there isn't much extra advice you need. A holiday kiss is always nice if entered in to in the interest of fun, rather than passion. Remember you are at a party under mistletoe, not in a private place with the lights down low. Your kiss should take that in to account. French kissing is fine as long as you don't get carried away. Kissing on the neck or face is also nice. But don't paw each other and don't turn the mistletoe kiss in to a make out session. Kiss like you normally would but keep it lighthearted and fun. If you haven't french kissed before it may be fun to give it a try under the magic of the mistletoe. Whatever you do, make sure it is fun and make sure that you are ready to rejoin the party when it is over.
Super Savvy Tip:
If you are solid in the relationship ending the kiss with a whispered, "I love you!" or "I am sure glad you're mine!" can make the moment linger in both of your hearts.
Styles of kissing
# ICE KISS
Celebrate the first day of winter with an ice kiss. Put an ice cube in your mouth until your mouth becomes cold. Remove the cube, track down your love and plant a kiss that will send chills!
# ELECTRIC SHOCK KISS
The two of you shuffle your feet furiously on carpet. When you both have an electric charge, lean over and slowly aim for each other's lips. With your lips about one-half inch apart, move in even slower until a spark jumps between teh two of you. Instantly after this happens, kiss one another...the please us the kiss right after the shock!
# CAMPING KISS
On a beautiful cool night, you and your love crawl into a sleeping bag outside. Cuddle and kiss.
# REWARD KISS
Next time your love performs some disliked home chore like cleaning the bathroom, mowing the lawn, or taking out the garbage, show your appreciation by tucking a candy kiss in a strategic location.
# POST-IT KISS
Use 3M Post-It notes to make a trail through your house that leads to your lips. Put a lipstick print or lip symbol on each note with an arrow pointing to the next note. You, of course, are at the end of the trail with a Post-It note over your lips that says, "LIFT FOR KISS"
# KISSING IN THE RAIN
The next time it rains, grab an umbrella, rain coats, and your love. Then go outside and kiss in the rain. If the spirit of the kiss moves you, remove the umbrella and kiss 'till the two of you are soaked.
# HERSHEY`S KISSES
Prepare a small bag of Hershey`s kisses and slip it into your love's purse, briefcase, or lunchbox. Attach a note that reads "SORRY, I CAN'T BE THERE IN PERSON, BUT THINK OF ME AND DO THE FOLLOWING: Close your eyes and place the candy between your lips. Drop the candy in your mouth and roll it on your tongue until it melts.
# TRACY AND HEPBURN KISS
Make flash cards, and the two of you re-enact the following kissing scene from WOMAN OF THE YEAR
# KISSES IN A BALLOON
Cut out small red tissue lips, and place them inside an opaque balloon filled with helium (any party store could do this for you) Tie the balloon to your love's chair at dinner. Desert is a shower of kisses delivered by a sharp pin.
# TOLL KISS
Next time you are driving your love somewhere, stop the car before crossing a bridge or going through a tunnel, and say the toll must be paid before you can go any further. Of course, the toll cost in one kiss.
# MORSE CODE KISS
If you know Morse code, great, If not, this is a great way to learn. Find a Morse Code chart. Using long and short kisses, spell out a message to your love and have him or her try to decipher them.
# KISSING METER KISSES
We have parking meters, so why not kissing meters? Turn a box into your own kissing meter and wear it around your neck. Give your love kissing tokens to start your kissing meter. Have an "expired" sign appear when you need another kiss.
# AUDIO STIMULATION
Make a cassette of kissing noises and place in your love's cassette player (walkman, car or home) with a note attached.
# BREAKFAST IN BED KISS
Slip out of bed early and prepare a special "Kissing" breakfast to serve to your love in bed. Pick foods that you can easily pick up and feed to your love. Kiss between bites!
# STAIRWELL KISS
This kiss is to be done at a party or at a gathering with your love. Steal away to a private location like behind a door or tree, or on the stairwell and passionately kiss each other. The risk of being discovered in the act is the key element.
# SCUBA KISSING
Wearing a diving mask and fins, simulate swimming underwater. Snorkel across the room to your love and kiss him or her.
# EYE TEST KISS
Make an eye chart like the ones that you see in a doctor's office where the letters get progressively smaller. Have the chart read, "IF you can read this you are standing close enough to kiss me." Now find your love and give an eye exam.
# THYMELY KISS
Thyme, according to the Greeks, is the herb which makes one irresistible kissable. Prepare a meal for your love using the herb. Moments after the first bite, rush to your love's lips with a passionate kiss. Come up for air, announce the Greeks were right, then rush back with another passionate kiss.
# SHOPPING LIST KISSES
Turn your shopping list into a scorecard the next time the two of you go shopping. The one who finds the item gets credit toward one kiss. Kisses are collected either on delivery to the grocery cart, or later at home.
# BAD HABIT KISS
Offer to stop a bad habit if your love will pay you kisses. For instance, a kiss for each cigarette not smoked, putting the toilet seat down, and/or every phone call kept under three minutes is rewarded with a kiss.
# CLOUD SHAPE KISS
Take your love to the backyard or out in a field: lie down on a blanket, and together inspect cloud formations. When both of you see the same thing, reward each other with a kiss.
# CHECK KISS
With your personal check, make a check out to your love for 1,000 kisses. Tell your love he or she can cash it in any time.
# TOE KISS
Prepare a foot bath for your love at the end of a long day. After the good soak, you towel dry his or her feet, give a massage and seal each toe with a kiss.
# CHOCOLATE HEART KISSES
Buy several boxes of little chocolate hearts that have sayings on them. Pick out all the "KISS ME" hearts and put them in a heart shaped box with the note "REDEEMABLE ANYTIME, day or night!"
# RENDEZVOUS KISS
With a note or phone call, tell your love to meet you at a certain place and time (e.g. park bench, street corner, ice cream stand) for a present. When your love arrives, have a bow stick to your lips.
# BATH KISS
Surprise your love with a kiss while he/she is showering or in the tub. (WARNING: Prepare to get wet)
# MACHINE GUN KISS
In rapid succession, plant 12 quick ones on your lover's lips.
Passionately kiss your love for at least five minute longer than usual.
# PINK PANTHER KISS
Humming the Pink Panther theme, prowl toward your partner. On the high note, pounce and pucker. Suggestion-wear only pink!
# THIRST QUENCHER KISS
For no reason, stare at your love's mouth while licking your lips as though dying of thirst. Inevitably, your love will ask what you're doing. ANSWER: I want them! I have to have them! I yearn to drink from them! Then ask for a kiss to quench your thirst!
# GREAT EXPECTATIONS KISS
Inform your love one morning that he or she will soon receive a fabulous kiss. Later, call you love with a reminder. When next you see your love, pull out the stops and plant a long, hot, passionate kiss.
# GOODBYE * 2 KISS
Send off your love in the morning with a quick kiss. As your love turns to leave, pull him or her back for a second, more passionate kiss
# RIDDLE KISS
Ask you love to solve the following riddle:
I am just two and two
I am warm, I am cold,
I am lawful, unlawful
A duty, a fault
I am often sold dear,
Good for nothing when bought;
an extraordinary boon,
and a matter of course,
and yielding with pleasure
When taken by force.
If your love solves it, ask for a demonstration as proof. If he or she cannot show the answer, of course, the answer is a kiss.
# KISS MANDATE
Command your love to kiss you. Elaborate on the technique you expect (e.g. long and wet, or the way Rhett kissed Scarlett) and where and when you will get it.
# UNEXPECTED KISS
When the two of you are doing the usual, lean over and give your love a sweet kiss on the cheek for no good reason and whisper...I LOVE YOU!
# POST OFFICE KISS
Notify your love you have personal mail to deliver. Pull your love into the nearest dark closet; close the door and play POST OFFICE: No instructions included!
# KNOCK-KNOCK KISS
Stage the following knock-knock joke with your love:
Who is there?
Kiss who? Why me, of course!
# BEGGAR`S KISS
That's right, on your knees with your hands clasped, plead for any kiss you love is humbly willing to give you!
# TOOTHPASTE KISS
Brush your teeth together. When your love's mouth is all sudsy, plant a big wet one on the lips. WARNING: MAKE SURE TOOTHBRUSHES ARE OUT OF THE WAY!
# PALM KISS
Holding your love's chin with your palm, smile and deliver a sweet kiss to his or her lips!
# 30 KISSES
Inform your love that in honor of the 30th of the month, you will kiss him or her 30 times during the day!
# CAT KISS
Rub against your love's legs while meowing and purring. Now that you have your love's attention, touch noses. Playfully paw your love while moving in for a kiss. .
# EYELID KISS
While kissing your love, watch for his or her eyes to close. Sweetly place a light kiss on each eyelid. Note: Be careful!
# EAR KISS
Whisper to your love how special he or she is to you, and then seal your message with an ear kiss!
# VALENTINE KISS
Celebrate Valentine's Day with kisses in the shape of a "V" on the face of your lover.
# FOOTBALL KISS
After a pass during a football game, kiss your love.
# SLEEPING BEAUTY KISS
Awaken your love from slumber with a tender kiss on the lips!
# No-Cal Kiss
After dinner, give your love a no-calorie desert...your lips.
# Talk and kiss
Don't give your Partner a chance to speak, every time he or she tries to kiss, smother them out with a quick passionate kiss.
# Champagne Kiss
Share the sizzle and sparkle of the exquisite champagne, by kissing while drinking. It is so. sensuous!
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Dating with Pure Passion: More than Rules, More than Courtship, More than a Formula
Kissing is often considered a means to an end. It's how many couples kick off their sack sessions, but as soon as things start heating up, making out usually falls by the wayside. "Some people think that sex is so full of pleasure on its own that kissing isn't important," says clinical sexologist Krista Bloom, Ph.D., author of The Ultimate Compatibility Quiz. And that's a damn shame because locking lips throughout the sexual experience (and not just at the very beginning of getting busy) can make the pleasure skyrocket considerably. "There are tons of nerve endings in your lips that stimulate desire," Bloom says.
"Smooching before, during, and after intercourse can be extremely arousing and satisfying." However, not all puckers are created equal; the trick is knowing what mouth-to-mouth moves intensify each stage of sex. Luckily, we've gone ahead and mapped it out for you. Try these tips to kiss your way to total bliss and take your relationship to a whole new level altogether!
Foreplay: Tease Him With Soft Pecks
Just as a runner needs to stretch before a race, your body requires an equally strategic warm-up before launching into full-throttle passion. "You don't want to come on too strong with your lips or you might accelerate his excitement too quickly," says Bloom. Instead, ease him into the pleasure zone, gradually increasing his arousal. The slower the buildup, the bigger the bang.
* Give him little pecks all over his face - everywhere except the lips. Touch his eyes, brows, tip of his nose, cheeks... As his excitement grows, trace the outline of his mouth with the tip of your tongue. He'll be aching to envelop you with his mouth, but don't let him do it...yet.
* Move on to open-mouth puckers, but no tongue allowed. If he tries to French you, pull away from him for a minute, then return to kissing. The point is to be playful and work him into a desirefilled frenzy.
* Add some playfulness into the mix by gently sucking and lightly nibbling on his lower lip every now and then. It will feel so good, he'll instinctively return the favour. During the Act: Bring It to the Boiling Point Once you are both fired up, coy smooches just aren't going to cut it. This is the perfect time to engage each other's mouths, no tongues barred. "Passionate kisses elevate your blood pressure and cause your heart to beat faster, getting you more excited and making it easier for you to reach orgasm," says certified sexologist Ava Cadell, PhD. Here's how to stoke the flame.
* Strip down, and tell him to sit on a chair. Then straddle him so that you are eye to eye. As he focuses on thrusting, take his tongue into your mouth, and very lightly suck on it so your lip action mimics the rhythm of his hips.
* Vary the intensity and depth of the lip-locks you lay on your bedmate. Give him long, soulful French kisses for a couple minutes, then surprise him by keeping your lips open and pressing them against his.hard.like you want to devour him whole. Then return to the soulful French kissing. Maintain the back-and-forth so he can't guess what's coming when. Not knowing what you're going to do next will amp up his excitement even more.
* You should let him know the passionate pressure is quickly building inside you by switching up your moves and trying something even more erotic. Unlock your lips periodically, and swirl your tongue around his in a circular motion as if you were licking an ice-cream cone. He will love that you're in control and essentially taking possession of his entire mouth.
The Big O: Let Your Inner Animal Loose
By the time you're about to climax, give in to your passionate fervor, and let yourself go absolutely wild. Just follow your body's cravings. "Being mouth to mouth as you peak can make for a much stronger, more intense orgasm because it's such a carnal act.your senses of taste and smell and touch are all converging at once," says Bloom. "It's like you're on sensual overload."
* Softly suck on each other's necks just as you're about to reach your peak. The pressure of your lips against his skin will amplify the buildup you've been feeling inside and create an even more powerful need for that heavenly release. 'Run your tongue back and forth along the roof of his mouth. This is a place that rarely gets any attention; the more unique the sensation, the more exciting it is for him.
* Let him know how hungry you are for him by gently biting his back and shoulders, spots on his body that can take a little roughhousing. Place the skin lightly between your teeth and pull; then run your tongue around the area and kiss it.
* If you're in a face-to-face passion position, supersize your orgasm by French-kissing him at the same time that you're climaxing.
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