Causes of a Marriage Breaks Down

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When your relationship  breaks down, nothing in your life will feel fairly proper. Depending on how serious the issues in between you and your spouse are, you two might even be close to contemplating a separation or divorce. If you're not ready to wave the white flag of defeat and give up on your relationship, you require to act now. As much as you may really feel your spouse is the 1 causing all the strife in your relationship, that's probably not the case at all. You http://t3.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:x4Oz0Gjp9HjpwM:http://blog.howtogetyourexbackfast.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/win-your-love-back-break-up.jpg&t=1both have to take responsibility for the state of your relationship. If you have indeed been casting the blame at your partner, stop that now. Talk to them about your component in the problems and what you would have carried out differently. If they see you taking responsibility for your mistakes, they're likely to do the same. This is a extremely essential step in the direction of rebuilding the connection between you two.

Once a marriage  begins breaking down many couples fall into an all too typical trap exactly where they begin focusing on their partner's negative qualities and forget their constructive attributes. You can typically inform when this happens because the couple will constantly bicker about the smallest things. That escalates frequently to a large fight exactly where hurtful insults are thrown around. Make a vow, beginning today, to only focus on the positive qualities that your spouse possesses. Compliment him or her on them more and overlook the things that usually annoy or upset you. If you do this for a few days you'll start to notice a change in your own attitude and your spouse's attitude as properly. The anger and hurt that was a regular component of your exchanges will be replaced by courtesy and kindness. This can make a dramatic distinction in the dynamic between the two of you and is an essential first step in the direction of rebuilding your relationship.

I'm often contacted by wives who tell me that they are "desperate to save the marriage," but also feel like they are running out of time and choices. Often, by the time they contact me, they've already tried many tactics, made many promises, and initiated many changes that have somehow still left them exactly where they are right now - struggling to hold on to their husbandsand their marriages beforea divorce actuallytakes place.The definitive answer on how tosave the marriagewill be various for each couple, but I think there are some universal ideas that can help greatly in most situations, so let's get started.

Let's say the roles were reversed and you were the one who needed out of the marriage, but your husband was doing everything in his power to cease this. How would you react to him? Would he appear attractive to you this way? Would you want to spend much more time with him, or much less?

Now, I can't read your mind, but most individuals are quite turned off by this behavior and the natural inclination is to want to get away from the person and to dig your heals in even harder. I inform you this not to indicate you have a lost cause on your hands (you don't), but to caution you on how husbands frequently read determined behavior. They want to get away as soon as they possibly can and they vow to be less obtainable to you in the future.

In fact, they are much more likely to drive your partner further away.

A Much better Way To Get Your Husband's Attention:
http://www.healthnlifestylemagazine.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/avoid-breakup.jpgMost women who are desperate to conserve their marriages make the mistake of pulling out all of the stops and the drama - all in an attempt to get their husband's attention so that he will listen to them. That's all they want. Just for him to sit straight down and hear what they have to say. Because, you can't save a marriage if you don't eventually return communication.

He's heard this all prior to and has decided to reject it. But, initial, you need to disarm him by changing the message.

The next time the subject of the marriage comes up, calmly inform your partner that you agree with him that the relationship is in genuine trouble and needs real improvement. But, unlike the countless times before, you aren't going to promise how you are heading to turn it close to or how the two of you can "work" on it (men hate to hear the word "work.")

Tell him that for your component, you vow to act in such a way that is going to enhance your interactions rather than allowing them to continue to deteriorate.

Your partner, in all likelihood, isn't going to think this for a second. He is heading to believe it's all another ploy. Your role here is the wife who desires to save her marriage but who hears what her husband is saying loud and clear. So, she's going to make the greatest of the scenario with dignity and grace. She's not going to engage or argue. She's going to respect herself enough to go out with friends, take care of her personal needs, and participate in activities that make her happy.

When he does, you require to keep it up. What you want him to see is the fun, lighthearted, self sufficient lady he first fell in love with. And, you want to present your self as the calm, rational, loving lady who is in control, but who respects her husband's need to be pleased.

Suddenly, he has his vibrant, loving, self reliant, wife back who values his happiness and respects his wishes. And, this combination is heading to be hard to resist. Simply because suddenly the lady he fell in adore with is standing right in front of him. And she's not determined. She just presenting the most stable, loving, competent version of herself .And it's highly most likely this is the version he wanted all along, but feared was gone forever.

Reasons Why Married Couples Grow Apart
When asked why their marriage is on the rocks, many couples often state that they have just grown apart. The reality of that statement just means the individuals no longer relate to or appreciate each other as they once did. This damage often occurs over a period of months or years and it is not even realized until it becomes a serious issue, which often escalates the marital problems even further.

It is the purpose of this article to expose some of the underlying reasons for "growing apart" http://www.askapril.com/images/articles/710_-_Its_Time_to_Break_Up.jpgwith hopes that this knowledge can prevent the situations from happening.
 

  1. Lack of communication. Every day life is moving at such a fast pace these days that it seems people are forgetting to "stop and smell the coffee" or rather stop and tell their spouse that they love them and appreciate them. Or even simpler than that, they forget to mention that they are cooking dinner on a certain night or are planning to mow the yard later. Saying those few words can lessen the stress of every day responsibilities and create a happier home and relationship.
  2. Too much talking and not enough listening. Okay, so maybe people do say some of the little things above but your partner may be too busy to remember. This is why listening often plays a more important role than talking. I mean, what's the point of talking if no one is listening? The next time you and your spouse are talking, listen to what he or she is saying. If it happens to be, "Hey, I'm cooking dinner Thursday night," you can say something back like, "Great! What are we having?" The next most important step is remembering your plans! If your memory tends to fail you, write it down. A Post-It on your work surface or a note in you day planner will work fine; just as long as you see it daily so when Thursday afternoon comes, you'll know where you'll need to be in a few hours.
  3. Lack of attention. This ties in with listening to your spouse. Sometimes people hear things and it "goes in one ear and out the other." But try this… if your spouse is telling you about a project either work related or something he or she is taking on personally, ask him or her about the progress a few days after hearing the news. Once the subject comes up enough, your spouse will want to tell you something new that they learned. Even if you have no interest or just no clue about the matter, you can still give him or her the attention they deserve. If you don't know what to say, a simple, "Wow; you learn something new everyday," or "I'm proud of you," will be sufficient. I'm sure a positive response is all the other person is looking for, especially if they know that you're not familiar with the topic.
  4. Lack of affection. The type of affection mentioned here isn't necessarily pertaining to physical affection. If you're not really the "touchy-feely" type, compliments work just as well! If you haven't given one in a while, now is a great time to start. Take notice of a physical feature your spouse really likes about him or her self. Tell him or her how something they wear or a certain color really accentuates that feature. I'm sure he or she will be so happy you noticed that you'll at least get a hug or a smile out of the deal. I wouldn't advise complimenting on a feature that your spouse is self-conscious of because chances are, he or she will think you're just saying it to say it and that you really don't mean it. You can also compliment your loved one on how smart he or she is. This will be especially easy if they're knowledgeable in a certain area. Obviously they like that topic or they wouldn't study it so much. Tell him or her that you're impressed or amazed by the amount of information they know. It will not only boost the confidence of your spouse, but yourself and your marriage!
  5. Lack of connection. Lately, with all the stress on individuality around us, we don't take the time to bond with our peers. This is especially true for a career oriented married couple. Both husband and wife work separately all day and when they come home, they're still in that individual mind-set. Your spouse is there to comfort and support you so depend on him or her a little. It will show that you're capable of taking care of yourself all day but still like his or her company to rely on after a rough day alone. Help each other out by sharing duties or trading duties that night. Yes, everyone gets tired but if you notice you have a little bit more energy than your spouse, pick up the slack for him or her that night. They will appreciate the deed and will or should return it another night when you are not feeling up to your end of the chores. Remember marriage is about two people joining lives. You may be separated all day but when you're together, you represent a two-person union that depends on itself to run smoothly.

It is the belief of this author that applying these suggestions on a daily basis will indeed help a troubled couple regain the closeness and magic their relationship once had. The results won't happen overnight but neither did the problems. Patience and understanding are key factors here but the benefits will far exceed the effort.

 

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